Resources

 If you're in a relationship with someone who seems to get angry at you frequently, or even really angry once in a while, there's a really good chance they're afraid of something and don't even know it. 

 Anyone can be an abuser. They come from all groups, all cultures, all religions, all economic levels, and all backgrounds. They can be your neighbor, your pastor, your friend, your child's teacher, a relative, a coworker -- anyone. It is important to note that the majority of abusers are only violent with their current or past intimate partner. One study found 90% of abusers do not have criminal records and abusers are generally law-abiding outside the home.  

 Sexual assault is a crime of motive and opportunity and the majority of sexual assaults are committed by someone known to the victim. Ultimately, there is no surefire way to prevent an attack. If you or someone you know has been affected by sexual violence, it’s not your fault. You are not alone. Help is available 24 / 7 through the Family Life Center Crisis Helpline at 386-437-3505, the National Rape Crisis Hotline at 1-888-956-RAPE (7273), and the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673). 

 We’ve been asked, “How do I talk to my partner, brother or sister, or friend about this issue? His or her behavior is hurting me and/or others. If you are in this position, we’ll try to provide some guidelines and suggestions. Remember, the message that your partner’s behavior is unacceptable is a really hard thing for your partner to hear, even if it is true. There are several things to consider before you begin the conversation: